Am I a Good Mom?
It is a common fear among the parents and one of mine as well.
Two of my mentors, Dr. Stephanie May and Dr. Jen Nardozzi, came up with an excellent acronym, FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real)
Then they say let’s find the facts, shall we?
Did your son/daughter shower today?
Did your son/daughter eat today?
Did your son/daughter go to speech therapy?
Did your son/daughter go to occupational therapy?
Did your son/daughter go to ABA therapy?
Did your son/daughter go to the neurologist?
Did your son/daughter go to the psychologist?
Did your son/daughter go to summer camp?
Did you take them to their favorite park or museum?
Did you go to the IEP meetings (Individualized Educational Plan) and ask for accommodations and services from the school district?
Did your son/daughter brush their teeth?
Did your son/daughter go to singing lessons or soccer?
Did you read a book with them?
Did you give them hugs and kisses?
Did you tell them that you love them?
At the same time, your house is somehow clean. There is food in the refrigerator, and you go to work.
Please, with a clear conscious mind, you can tell yourself at night that I am a good mom, I am human, and there is not a cape hanging in my closet.
by Juana Venegas
